Seriously, I do. Just because I never married one and haven’t successfully dated one in the last umpteen years doesn’t mean I’m a MANHATER. Men are cool. They’re different, and while that can be mindblowingly frustrating, it’s kinda beautiful. Or handsome?
Too Much Schmuckery
There’s been a major overcorrection since the Me Too movement, making men the punchline of every joke. Recent commercials, tv shows, films, podcasts and culture in general are setting the guy up as the schmuck while the woman rolls her eyes and does the sensible thing. This only further divides us. While we can all agree some men are straight up steaming turds, I’ve run into a lot of hot lady dookies in my life too.
Study the Aliens
Men obviously approach relationships differently than women do, which is what causes friction most of the time, but can we also learn something from them? While I might spend three hours analyzing why my friend hasn’t texted back (Is she mad? Did I offend her? Did her phone fall into a volcano?), my male friends just shrug and say, “Maybe she’s busy.” Revolutionary!
Their approach to all kinds of problems is usually as simple as a roll of duct tape. While I might approach an issue with a 12-step plan involving multiple contingencies and a Pinterest board, men often have a “let’s just try this and see what happens” approach. Sometimes it ends in disaster, but then the “I told you so” feels so good, it’s really a win-win.
And aren’t we all a little jealous of the casual bromance? I’ve witnessed my guy friends maintain decades-long bonds based entirely on fantasy football feuds. There’s no planning elaborate reunions or worrying about how spending too much time with one friend might make another feel. There’s something beautiful about their low-maintenance connections, like watching a cactus thrive in the desert.
I actually enjoy the mysterious paradox of men’s emotional sensibilities. The same guy who seems emotionally constipated during the “where is this relationship going?” conversation will quietly weep during any historical battle movie or when their favorite golfer misses a putt. They’re emotional ninjas, hitting you with the feels when you least expect it.
Their confidence – even when completely unwarranted – is something to behold. Men apply for jobs they’re barely qualified for with the unwavering certainty of a toddler who thinks they can fly. And you know what? Maybe we could all benefit from a dash of that audacity in our lives.
Of course, this is all just my opinion. If you’re interested in a longer, more scientific exploration and are curious about why men and women are so different, The Relationship Institute is a good place to start.
Embrace the Dude (If You’re Into That)
While this entire blog is about women enjoying singlehood late into our third act in life, that doesn’t make men the enemy. When we’re not beholden to their admirations or expectations, we can actually appreciate them for the unique creatures they are, hairy knuckles and all.
